On line dating fetishes
Like video production, it’s an exploitation of greed and lust, but the method of commodification is the provision of the means for satisfying the public’s desire for intimacy. That’s much creepier.The core difference between dating online and offline is the same as the difference between dating in Ellsworth, Maine, and dating in Manhattan: quantity of contact. Over the years of working for and patronizing dating sites, I’ve heard a number of people say “he/she uses X dating site and brings home all these disgusting men/women/creeps/tramps” which I don’t doubt, but these people would be bringing home the same demographic were they using non-digital means.
A friend of mine dismisses dating sites on the grounds that it’s too obvious that all the people want is sex.
It’s a far better way to judge sexual charisma, but it’s a terrible way to judge anyone with even a shred of self-awareness.
Anyone who says they are a good judge of character in reference to people they’ve known less than one hundred cumulative hours is as self-delusional as people who say “I’m a people person” with a straight face, which is like saying “I’m a homo-sapien” as if it were an achievement. Assuming a barely honest online self-description and a photo shoot, you have a handful of empirical data before you commit to spending time with someone. The following is a common exchange on dating sites: From: Some_dudexxx Subject: Hi there You seem really nice, and cute.
I would even say that dating sites have a population more inclined toward meaningful, non-sex-based relationship than the average Saturday night crowd at the venue of your choice.
Since the inception of online dating, a common, introductory paragraph cry has been “sick of the bar scene.” This is usually a cry from women, who comprise the only gender that’s usually sick of people pestering them for sex.
If you want to say something about dating sites is creepy, use this: Working as a video editor for an informercial production house taught me that people are systematically categorized in terms of fuckability, and how much profit that fuckability can generate for products that don’t work.
I can’t figure out why people consider a face to face meeting a better indicator of character. It’s about the insights into the world of online dating and people in general that kept me hooked on the job long after I checked out on being a part of the actual work. I have no problem with math majors; I’m dating one. I have a huge problem with people who use the phrases “the average person” or “the man on the street” as synonyms for “people dumber than I am.” I’ve always found it interesting how math and engineering majors deride philosophy majors, while philosophy majors dismiss math and science people, all with the same justification: your discipline isn’t hard enough.